Another day is here! Sitting in my office, I began to observe the so- called couples in and around my surroundings. The geek boy is dating the office hottie now! And wait the girl whose face-you-cannot-see-because-of-pimples is flirting with the attendant?!! Oh Goddd, how do these people even find each other! After giving them one more minute of my attention, I logged on to my computer and began browsing my e-mail.( I know, I know, no personal dealings during work says the company policy but when did 5 minutes of harmless browsing ever hurt someone?!).

Crystal Ball for Future Call

Checking my e-mail, I found links to three online dating websites, inviting me to join them. How do even they know I am single now? Isn’t it embarrassing enough itself to just live with it and now the whole world is aware of it..Urrrrrgggh..Anyway, I logged on to these websites to get a look at them (Ok, I admit, I was trying my luck).

Browsing on the Dating Sites

Wow, there are like thousands of people registered onto these websites. So, I am not alone?!! I began humming a tune feeling a little elevated as this new found information. To register, I need a profile picture and need to fill in some information about myself. A cloud of confusion started to prevail around me, which Picture do I choose?? O my god..this is a serious problem. I had like hundreds of pictures cluttered in different folders and to choose one among them seems like an impossible task. Slowly, I start placing decent pictures of me in a new folder and after an hour( I needed a break from work!!), I zeroed in on a picture of me, wearing diesel jeans and a nice fitted top and holding one of the few designer handbags I own. When I began to upload the picture, it struck me that the picture was at least two years old. Ok, so I have put on a bit of weight and my hair is shorter, but it’s still me right? It was at this moment, that I realized that what if the pictures of all those hundreds of strangers were fake? What if they were taken years back when people looked younger, fresher and smarter? After considering the problem, I decided to take a chance and created my profile.

Is it real? Is it safe?

No Way!

Then, I began browsing through several profiles and a profile of a cute guy called Mark caught my eye. He is an international communications major from University of Pennsylvania?!! WOW. This guy is smart and cute…but then why is he here?…ok no more doubting I decided and went through his profile…There were so many pictures but I could not find him in any of them but there was one familiar face in most of the pictures. Trying to place

the familiar face, I jogged my memory cells. Wait, I know that guy..I have seen him…OMG he is Alan, Alan the totally icky postman! How I despise him! His ogling, the nauseating smile and the sneaky looks…aaahhh he reminds of a sick pervert or at best the next serial killer. Coming back, what is he doing in these pictures? Let me have a look at Mark’s profile picture. Now, even this looks familiar to me. Wait a second, that picture is of Kevin Costner standing sideways! Crap! He actually starred in a movie called postman!

I need a Mechanism of TRUST!

I began cursing at everything, the situation, postman and myself. Obviously, what could I expect from that  sickly postman. Trying to pass of as Costner with a degree from UPenn is probably his only chance of having a real date. I logged off, and took some time to clear my head. Ok, so what now? Will I try my luck again with those online dating websites? To tell you frankly, I do not know. How can I tell if a person is to be trusted? Can anyone vouch for this system?  I am wizened by this experience and I hope it will make better decisions in the future. Tomorrow is a new day!! Till then, ciao!!!

Love

Swapana

Getting up in the morning, and making sure you dress alright every single day, enough to attract Mr. Charming is a painful part of every single girl’s life. To top it all, after going through the excruciating process of making the same mistakes over and over again, by choosing to go out with all the wrong kinds of people, it’s a miracle that my faith and optimism never fades ( I am pretty sure I can see a lot of heads nodding, welcome to the club people!). Ahhh, hope! It’s all I have!!

So, now you must be curious about my love life( if you can call it that), well let me tell you before you get all excited, I am famous for dating all kinds of incompatible people. Trust me when I say this, no person can give you more examples of disaster dates than me! The other day I met this totally cute guy (stunning looks), and as expected of me, I fell in love with him in the first 30 seconds itself (it’s the after –effect of all the melodramatic series on television promoting love at first sight) and I decided why not ask him out myself? (Go, girl power!) And I did (after a lot of self-mustered courage), and he did agree and we walked down to the nearest coffee shop. (Yes, I know that was very fast, but ladies there is no time to waste!)

Mr. Charming

Talking over a cup of coffee, I realized this guy has absolutely nothing to talk except about himself and his good-looking features and fortune. He started off talking about his life, school, college, parents, friends……
and the list went on…(He did have the nerve to mention how often he is addressed by us – girls and to be asked for a date!!). Come-on people, I do not want to know about the autobiography of a person I met like 5 minutes ago! (And how much competition I have). The only thing he asked me was (I am guessing he did), was my name. It was like a never ending interview session with the interviewer (me, in this situation) being completely quite and the candidate taking complete charge. He was so full of himself that he even asked me how I knew, although his good-looking, that he’s free for dating!!

Finally, the lunch break was over, and we had to head back to office (he did confirm my name mid-way again) after reaching my desk, I finally began to appreciate the beauty of silence. Was it me being naïve or dating a beauty has its pitfall? My friends say I should check more on a guy before asking for a date, but whom and what to ask is still a mystery for me. Can online dating sites match me with better success or ease? (I am thinking on checking one of the dating sites, any suggestions?) Well, that was how my last date went. So, can’t get enough of my dramatic life?!! Stay tuned, and I will update you with the latest happenings of my “live life”. (Hmmm!)

Come to think of it, when was the last time you even heard of someone wasting their time and money on dating sites like match.com? Social networking sites in general, and Facebook in particular, represent the new frontiers of social interaction, and that includes dating and romance.

Facebook has some unique benefits when it comes to finding a date:

• Privacy. You have complete control over who can view your profile or initiate contact with you. And when it comes to meeting someone new, Facebook makes it discreet with the help of private messages and chat.
• Fake-proof. No more fake profiles and misinformation! It’s totally safe and customary to meet people through your own friends, in a safe and customary way of finding a date, and it means that you and your date can start on a note of trust and commonality.
• Social environment. Say goodbye to the awkwardness and anxiety of dating web sites and match making services – Facebook provides a natural and relaxed environment for meeting new people, since privacy is protected and connections are made through known friends.
• Special applications. On Facebook you have access to hundreds of applications to play around with. XibYa-Match-Friends is one such application which is designed to help you find a match on Facebook.
• Free! Facebook is free, as are applications like XibYa-Match-Friends.

So if you haven’t been using Facebook to meet new people, you need to start today!

Build Your Friends List

Facebook is all about friendship, so of course finding a match on Facebook is also about friendship: enlisting the help of your friends and connecting with potential dates through them.

So the bigger your friend circle, the greater your chances of meeting someone wonderful. This doesn’t mean you should start adding people randomly or aggressively, but you should definitely not miss any opportunities to widen your circle. If you meet someone once or twice and have a conversation, send them an ‘add’ request on Facebook. Be open to meeting friends of friends.

Making your profile visible to friends’ friends is also a great way to let people find out a little about you before they initiate contact or friendship.

Find Singles on Facebook

The best approach to meeting new people on Facebook is through your friends. Most of your friends are sure to have some single friends on Facebook, and with the help of Facebook applications you can access their basic profiles. At this point you are most likely looking for a personality match to find some dating potential. So pay special attention to people’s interests and sense of humor – if you have things in common with the friend of a friend, you can easily and naturally extend an invitation to talk.

Using a dating application like XibYa Match Friends, you can quickly look through and match your personality with your friends’ friends.

Initiate contact with your friends’ friend

Now that you have searched for and found someone who seems compatible and interesting, it’s time to reach out to them. The best way to do it is through your mutual friend. Let your friend know that you saw the profile of one of their friends, and why you think this person might be a good match for you. Of course, ask your friend what he or she thinks about it, and ask them to set the two of you up.

The fact is – most people love to play match-maker! You only have to put the seed in your friends’ mind and he or she is sure to give you their honest opinion of the potential match, and to do everything they can to get the two of you together. Again, Facebook applications like XibYa-Match-Friends can make this easier and even more fun for everyone involved.

At that point, of course, it’s all up to you and your chemistry with this new person. If the two of you “click” on Facebook, set up a date to meet in person. If not, you just made a new friend and can leave it at that.

So forget blind dates and match-making services, use Facebook and rediscover the magic of dating!

How many times it has been that when we are totally confused about the clothes we have to wear, the shoes we have to buy or simply the man we have to choose, we turn to our friends? Well, the answer is almost always! Simply because no one knows us the way our friends do. Growing up together has its advantages, the most important one being the ability to know our friend’s inside out. Friends always know our choices and preferences when it comes to everything! This is the main reason why trusting your friends to select a date or match for you always works!

Help your friends find a match – They will help you back

We all have friends who are looking for the one right person, or we might be looking for the perfect date ourselves. What better way to do this than using the “Match Friends” feature offered by the XibYa application? Not only can we help our friends by matching them with a person who can prove to be their future companion but we can also benefit ourselves from the use of XibYa-Match-Friends application. The match friends feature offered by XibYa is connected to one of the most popular social networking websites, Facebook and this makes it a highly convenient feature. We can simply open the application, browse through our friend’s profiles and then match them with people who we think can prove to be compatible with them.

So what can you do?

The matching can be done on various aspects such as love of dancing, movies, books, music, travel, team and even options such as – will get along, perfect match, could match or should go together. People can also be matched for reasons that combine studies, business and work. With so many options and filters to help us choose the best matches, we can surely find a good match for our friends and help them have the perfect date. We can also request a match from our friends! Why not share their knowledge to gain new friends? Other than dates, we can even make great friends for work, employment or any other issue at mind with the help of this application, all this without sharing any of our private information.

XibYa-Match-Friends – It’s allot better then other online-dating websites

Usually, on online dating websites, we need to create our profiles and then matched with people all across the world. This is a very impractical way of doing things, as matching with strangers is always associated with some risk factor and also being matched with a stranger is a very poor option as compared to the ability to being matched by a friend. Simply because no one knows us the way our friends do. Thus, XibYa’s Match-Friends is the best thing that could have happened to online dating. So, what are you waiting for? Go, match your friends and get a match yourself!

How many times have you said to your friends or family “Err, I had gone on a date with this guy I met on an online dating website and guess:  The date turned out to be a complete disaster. It was so awkward and we totally had nothing in common. I wanted to run from that place as fast as I could”. Let me guess, if you are single and in search of a good date, you must have had that experience at least once. Trust me, as I had it several times myself! After all such experiences, I was totally put-off from online dating till I came across a great Facebook application that includes “match friends” feature.

Let is be light

Instead of depending on unknown websites for providing you with so- called perfect dates, you can now find a great date, among your friends! The best part- you can do it through Facebook! Now, I know it is too exciting to be true but it is! Match friends is a feature offered by the XibYa-Match-Friends application, which allows us to match our friends with others in our friends list on Facebook by simply pointing out to the common aspect that connects them. It could be books, movies or even studies! You can simply go through your friends list and then match two people whom you think are most appropriate for dating each other and send them the match proposal. They can then take off from there!

The perfect date

Ask your friends for a match

The same principle applies to you too! Your friends can simply match you with a person on Facebook through the help of XibYa-Match-Friends application, whom according to their opinion is a good match for you. You can then speak to the person and give it a chance! Matching done by friends is much more likely to succeed than matching done by a random website with strangers. With such an amazing application, Cupid is going to be in action a lot more!

Finally a Cool Facebook Application: XibYa-Match-Friends